1) Make peace with your past to protect your future.
We often carry the emotional baggage stemming from painful past experiences for too long. Yet the past will never change, regardless of long is spent reflecting. The best option is to acknowledge and accept our past, while releasing the negative emotions.
2) Establish independence
To truly love another, one must be comfortable alone. Intolerance stems from incessant judging of ourselves. Absolving ourselves from the unrealistic expectations of perfection - while forgiving mankind's innate limitations and flaws is the first step to love. As we learn to accept ourselves as we are, we begin to genuinely love each other.
3) What others say or think about you is none of your business
A confident, self-assured person does not seek validation. What others say and do to you reveals more about them than it reveals about you. Often individuals project their own insecurities or shortcomings onto those surrounding them. Never take anything personally - for all we know "the abuser" could be fighting a battle of their own. Empathy triumphs.
4) Time heals almost everything
At the time, a moment of adversity feels like the only thing that will ever matter. Yet once we are removed from the situation, this great obstacle does not seem as Earth-shattering as it once did. Time allows us to heal, recover, reflect and improve. The challenges we embrace build character and spur growth.
5) Create your own happiness
Happiness is perception. While we cannot control the complexities of the dynamic world we live in, we can control our interpretations. We have the power to react to circumstances, as we so choose. If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not people or wealth.
6) Do not compare your life to others'
Before judging a peer, empathize with them. Imagine their challenges, experiences and fears. They may have climbed the depths of hell just to make it the second floor; while you were lucky enough to start on the third. Your life is a journey uniquely your own. Sometimes you'll be ahead; sometimes you'll be behind. The race is long, and in the end, it is only with yourself.
7) Worrying about the future is counterproductive
It is okay not to have everything figured out. No one does. Wisdom dawns when we relax in not knowing what is ahead of us. Know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your mind.
8) Smile and relax
Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles. You do not own all the problems in the world. If we threw all our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d probably grab ours back. Life is not a destination but a journey to be savored. And always be grateful for those who sacrificed for your well-being and the greater good
9) Never forget the pressures of modern life are social constructs
The ego-centric, social media obsessed culture we live in isn't real. Current social constructs tell us we need to do this and be like that to be happy and fulfilled. In reality, it is all a manmade game and you can take a break whenever you wish. It isn’t necessary to stress to the level of those around you. Take nothing as seriously as the universal right to seek peace.